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3 Coaching Questions To Deal With Disappointments, Rejections, Hurt

Updated: Nov 25, 2022

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Mahatma Gandhi

Dear friend,

How has your start of the weekend been? I hope you are giving yourself the nourishing time you deserve!

Here are 3 valuable coaching questions for you to reflect on:

1. If others` feedback doesn`t matter, what does this experience teach you about how you want to show up for yourself?

I love this powerful question (thanks to my friend!), reminding us that we cannot control others` reactions, even if we had prepared something with care and heart.

2. If you were to choose a metaphor, what image do you see?

I love working with images because as we know, pictures can tell more than words can describe. (Of course, some of us may be more the auditory, reading/writing, or kinesthetic type of person.)

3. What is the gift of this experience?

When time is right, e.g. after having processed our legitimate feelings, we can then gently find a gift that this experience has brought us. Based on the Positive Intelligence training, there can be three types of gifts:

  • Gift of Knowledge: What new knowledge have you gained from this experience?

  • Gift of Power: What power - meaning inner strength or muscle - could you train, that also benefits other areas of your life?

  • Gift of Inspired Action: What action has this experience inspired you to take?

There may be one or more gifts in one experience, and sometimes with time, different gifts emerge from different points of view. So in case you have been disappointed, rejected, or hurt, feel free to go through these Coaching questions, ask for help, and also take good care of yourself. Life is a mysterious and beautiful gift. It can challenge us and surprise us, but it always loves and cherishes us, even if we don`t know it or currently feel it. We all have an Inner Child that is loved from the day we are born and keeps shining inside us. We just need to remember and give ourselves the love we need and deserve.

Love, from me to you,


How are you dealing with disappointments, rejections, and hurt? Let me know by sending an email to – I very look forward to hearing from you! :) PS: Subscribe to my #mindfulmagic Newsletter to stay in touch for upcoming posts, free offers, and news :)

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