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3 ways to turn around a difficult morning

Updated: Nov 25, 2022

"The only way to live is by accepting each minute as an unrepeatable miracle." - Tara Brach

Here are my tips when you have a difficult start into the day and how your day can and end with a very fulfilling and grateful feeling:

1. Surrender

As simple as it may sound, as difficult surrendering can be. Should you wake up in the morning with negative emotions and thoughts, surrender. The moment is already as it is, that is, with negative emotions and thoughts - the moment has already arrived. Just like when you get served a plate of spaghetti, but you don`t like spaghetti and are immediately frustrated. However, the plate has already been served and while you can change your order afterwards, you cannot change the fact that the plate of spaghetti has already arrived in the first place. So as you can see, you actually have at least two options to react, but we often react in auto-pilot and (upon often automatic judgment) are not only frustrated, but also complain and retaliate against the innocent waiter. If this is just bad luck or coincidence, then you may agree that adding frustration or even retaliation is a waste of energy and may only add to the vicious cycle of negativity. Of course, we can still feel frustrated, but we don`t have to allow this energy ruin our entire day. Try to sit with it, to surrender to it, and let it pass.

2. Notice your judgments

This is probably one of the most difficult things not to do, given - if you have noticed it - we almost judge all the time. When we wake up, we judge how our day is or will be. When we look at the mirror, we judge how we look. When we get a text message, we judge the content or also the tonality. When we are in a call with others, we judge what is being said or we judge the person. When we eat something, we judge whether or how delicious it is. When we are on social media, we judge most of the time. When we go through our day, we often judge most harshly ourselves. So here it is important to distinguish between judgment and discernment - discernment helps us filter and select relevant information, judgment often adds another layer that takes our energy. Judgment puts a more emotional layer based on our beliefs that we are either superior or inferior. It separates us and burdens our relationships and connections with other people. So be aware of this, when you judge, just notice it, and come back to this present moment, e.g. via your breath or five senses (see, touch, hear, smell, taste).

3. Nourish yourself

To help counter-balance the Judge`s energy, we can and need to take care of ourselves, by e.g. talking and seeing ourselves as our best friends or beloved children. When you had a rough start in the morning, you can take time for yourself, step by step. Soon you may feel more energized, peaceful, and yourself again. Doing what nourishes you can also help, like attending a webinar with like-minded people who honor your values, such as connections, spirituality, and learning. It is funny that when you indeed let go of expectations how your day will or should go, you give room for something beautiful to emerge.

How are you dealing with bad morning starts? Let me know by sending an email to – I very look forward to hearing from you! :) PS: Subscribe to my #mindfulmagic Newsletter to stay in touch for upcoming posts, free offers, and news :)

  • Inspiration: Tara Mohr - Playing Big Program

  • Reflection: What nourishes me throughout the day?

  • Intention: I don`t judge how my day starts as I can still create my day.

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