"In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act." - Caroline Cardwell
Having been in the personal development space for a long time now, I got to know lot of sincere players as well as, unfortunately, superficial providers, who also call themselves coaches, while only scratching at the surface. They meditated once, they read a great book, they did a free online webinar, and already feel they understand the world. It is great if these few resources can already help shift your mood and perspective, and I am also no one who is enlightened and has all the answers to life. However, the diluted market makes it difficult for both professionals and newbies to find the right resources and understand the right messages. One of the most common, dangerous messages in this space is that something is wrong about us and we need to fix it, that we always have to improve ourselves to live our fullest potential, and that it is all about being our better selves.
While I learned from a friend (thank you!) that I can`t control what is going outside, but only what is coming from me, today I would like to raise awareness to help shape the understanding and messaging in the personal development world, for your most benefit and value.
1. "In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act."
When we look at the Personal Development industry, we shall not forget that while all providers want to help you in one way or the other, some, unfortunately, want to fix you by addressing your pain and problems, while others genuinely want you to grow and thrive. There are also those people who want to help others, because they then feel good about themselves, but forget they have to start with themselves.
2. You are good enough.
To help you filter through the various offers, start with yourself and explore the assumption, if this is something uncommon for you, that you are good enough. Yes, there may be some challenges in your life, with some negative emotions and thoughts, but still - you are good enough. The reason I enrolled for my Coaching qualification with the Co-Active Training Institute was not only because they had a deep spiritual understanding, but also they - different from others - approached people differently, in that they see people as naturally creative, resourceful, and whole. So while it may be difficult, uncommon, and odd for you to like yourself, accept yourself, for who you are right now, explore with this intention. Self-care starts with us and knowing yourself will help you to make the right decision for your personal growth.
3. Choose what resonates with you (yes, listen to your heart :-)).
Once we have decided with self-care and mindfulness that we want to invest into our personal growth, often it can be that our head comes in. To make a cost-benefit analysis. To peruse the providers` experiences and qualifications. To fight our own battle in our mind going back and forth with pros and cons. Once you are aware of your analysis-paralysis (with the help of mindfulness), invite your heart in, who knows you best and also what fits you without you necessarily understanding it. Our heart can access different energies and information that you can`t see immediately, so trust your heart and let it guide you. You notice when you have a good feeling or feel uncomfortable with someone, so bring in also your intuition and gut feeling to make a holistic decision. At the end, it is an investment in yourself and if you don`t feel comfortable yet to spend money on your personal growth (after a free taster session where you also meet the providers in person), then start small - step by step as I like to say - with e.g. reading a book, following a blog, listening to a podcast. There are so many free resources that you can play with and see what works for you. One personal wish from me for you is to listen to your needs - what may have worked for your family and friends is a great inspiration, but may have only worked for their personalities, while you may need and benefit from another great service. Enjoy!
Do you know that you are good enough? Let me know by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org – I very look forward to hearing from you! :) PS: Subscribe to my #mindfulmagic Newsletter to stay in touch for upcoming posts, free offers, and news :)