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How to choose a new experience over our tendency to stay in our comfort zone

Updated: Nov 22, 2022

"Your life begins to change when you change something you do every day." - John C. Maxwell

The title does not mean that there is anything wrong with e.g. staying in bed, watching Netflix, and eating pizza. I also have those times without feeling bad about it (maybe not in bed, but on a couch ;)), so there is definitely no judgment on what makes us feel good. However, I would like to stretch you to create new experiences even if your body wants to do the usual same thing.

Listening to another episode of Jay Shetty`s podcast "On Purpose", Shetty calls for a choice of inspiration instead of entertainment. The reason being is that entertainment often helps us escape (temporarily) from our lives and according to a study, the positive relaxation effect you get from e.g. reading is the same, or more, than watching TV.

Let me share with you a personal experience of mine - today was a cold day like any other during lockdown winter. Our flat, unfortunately, does not isolate warmth very well, so it can get very cold very quickly. My body was starting to freeze, so my reaction was to move less and just wanting to cuddle in my bed (I have a nice heat blanket). But I also noticed the nice dry weather with sun rays and blue sky, which is rare not only in winter, but also here in the UK. While I could sense my urge to choose the easiest route already feeling the warmth of my blanket, I knew, too, that my body benefits from fresh air and movement, and that I can always read in my bed, e.g. later in the dark evening. So I put my thickest winter coat on, grabbed my grocery bag as well as my Kindle, to head to Tower Bridge, which is just a short walk from my home. Immediately with my first step out the door, I could feel my energy rising and my mind waking up again. It wasn`t as cold as expected (I have the best winter coat ever :)) and it was a beautiful landscape framing Tower Bridge and the City skyline. I spent about an hour outside reading Malala Yousafzai`s autobiography, time flew by, and I felt so grateful and proud of my time spent in the fresh air. Now I am writing you with a definitely different, uplifting energy than if I had stayed at home the whole day. Again, this is not to say that there is something wrong making a comfortable day for ourselves (reading a book outside was also not my most extreme decision), but to show you that even in the smallest moments we have a choice to create a new experience.

In a nutshell, these 3 guiding questions may help you during this thought process between your "comfortable self" and your "adventurous self" on what activity to do next:

  • Do I really want this or is it my comfortable self choosing the easiest option?

  • What else can I theoretically do? (Note: Notice and put aside any voices judging, reasoning, analyzing, e.g. "but the weather is too cold".)

  • How will I feel after each option and what is important for me now?

Be honest and take it easy, it is a simple exercise, so no need to judge yourself if you do choose to stay at home and watch a documentary that widens your horizon or gives you plenty of joy. Just know that you have the power to create every day of your life, and as we know, every day adds up to our entire life experience.

What choice have you made differently today? Let me know by sending an email to – I would be very keen to hear your views! :) PS: Subscribe to my Newsletter to stay in touch for any upcoming posts and news :)


This week`s ...

  • Inspiration: Malala Yousafzai - I am Malala: The Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban

  • Reflection: What choice can I make differently today?

  • Intention: Introduce a new experience every day for a week, can be small (e.g. eating something else for breakfast) or big (hosting a Zoom call with friends on a particular topic) - enjoy! :)

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