"Just don't give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don't think you can go wrong. It isn't where you came from; it's where you're going that counts." - Ella Fitzgerald
Dear my friend,
How are you today? How has your week been so far? <3
Today is a beautiful day here in Germany. The sun is rising, yet the air still fresh and cold, but about to warm us soon later in the afternoon. Imagine you are here with me in a small idyllic town at a famous river in Germany, you would also hear many birds chirping and smell the tulips blossoming. Maybe you can hear them, too, because I feel spring has already sprung just after days of snowing and raining.
Yesterday, I had a very important conversation with my family that I was really afraid of. I called in my sister for emotional support (although at the end, it was her asking the tougher questions :D). Anyway, I shared with my family that, even though there is currently a pandemic, I wanted to do a sabbatical to finally do what I want to do (s. today`s quote) and also let my soul recharge and nourish itself again, after an intense and emotional time in my corporate job.
Our conversation surprisingly went well, or maybe my family was already prepared for this, so they hid any judgmental reactions from me this time. While I am grateful for their support, even though they did not necessarily burst into exuberant joy, I both understand myself and my family. We are from different generations AND different cultures, PLUS each have different personalities. So there are multiple views, needs, preferences in one pot, that I have now learned to stir.
Having finally shared my intention, I felt relieved you cannot even imagine! Not as if there had been a heavy burden on my shoulders, but now I do feel more liberated, like the whole world is now opening up to me. As I have shared with you a few days ago, I am currently contemplating on the perspective "What if ... everything turns out well, or even better?", which is currently really serving me, and also my wish for you.
If you are facing a difficult conversation, but with your intention to honour your values, then be brave, have faith, and take one step forward. You deserve to be truly happy, for your long-lasting life, not only for one moment. You deserve to be fully heard, seen, and listened to. You deserve to create your precious life on your own terms, what matters to YOU. You deserve to be loved and share from your heart, too, without compromise, apology, or rules. You deserve to be yourself and grow more into yourself. You deserve to shine your bright light and show what you've got!
At the end, even if one part of us loves to feel backed up by our loved ones, it doesn`t really matter what others think. As mentioned before, we all have our different dreams and visions of life, so only you know what is serving you best. By living your life, you will blossom into your most healthiest, beautiful, and loving person that is within you, and people around you will, sometimes without knowing, acknowledge and admire you for your energy that you bring forth onto this world. Also don`t forget, your loved ones may in fact support you, but likely in their own way, so in case you are looking for more championing or emotional love, you know what you can give to yourself or where to look for it elsewhere.
Talking about love languages, what is the love language towards yourself? How are you usually talking to yourself? Is there a dominant Inner Critic or a compassionate Inner Mentor? What voice you are hearing 24/7 determines how you see and experience life. While we may have a tendency towards a negative bias, given our world is currently built on fear and wants us to feel not good enough to consume what is out there, the power ultimately lies with us, to choose which voice we want to listen to.
And it may be, besides choosing the voice you want to support you during your day, that you also want to explore other forms of love languages. If you are not familiar with the 5 love languages, they are physical touch, gifts, acts of service, quality time, and affirmations. Choosing a more compassionate and loving voice in your head may address affirmations well - of course, feel free to add specific powerful affirmations in your life, too :) (read more in my blog post about affirmations). But do you also need a physical hug that you can give yourself (or give your body a gentle touch when having a bath)? Or do you want to make yourself a surprising gift? Or how can you support yourself as your best friend? How can you make more time for yourself (#selfcare)?
Explore what works for you, which may change from time to time, and ask your heart what you need. Please know that I see you growing and learning like never before - this is something you can be hugely proud of. If you ever want to talk, please reach out. I am here for you, always.
Love, from me to you,
How do you love yourself? Let me know by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org – I very look forward to hearing from you! :) PS: Subscribe to my #mindfulmagic Newsletter to stay in touch for upcoming posts, free offers, and news :)
Reflection: What does my heart need?
Intention: I honour myself by honouring my own love language.
Viet Linh Le is a female visionary, qualified coach with corporate experience, and life warrior, with the mission to change our world by coaching the next-generation decision-makers.