"What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year." - Vern McLellan
Do you feel this, too? A sense of new beginnings, new opportunities, new experiences. Despite the challenging year 2020 (also very personally for me, but more in a separate post), I still feel the hope and optimism in the air. Not only of the world that the pandemic will be hopefully over soon, but also because it is simply the beginning of a new year. Especially because 2020 was a year we could not progress as expected with our bucket list - e.g. travel to unseen places, create memories with our loved ones, visit this fancy restaurant, immerse in arts & culture, dance in a crowded concert. Whatever was on our bucket list, most had to wait in 2020.
The beginning of the new year does hug us with a special energy that we can absorb and use to let go of the past and create our present (aka future). If we don`t, we may miss the opportunity to ideate and lay the foundation for the life that we desire. Sooner or later, we will be busy with our busy-ness, doing this and that, esp. if the pandemic will easen over this coming year, everyone will likely go crazy (incl. me). Rather than being led by ad-hoc impulses or by others` perceptions of what is currently cool, we can determine for ourselves what is important for us first. Don`t get me wrong, room for spontaneous adventures is an important part of life, but what I want to bring to your attention is your power to create the experience that make your core self truly happy.
What do I mean with that? Here`s the one tip how to commit to your core self for 2021 - Find your motto for 2021.
I have never had a motto for a year as I was one of those who halfheartedly made new year`s resolutions, knowing that most of them won`t turn out as expected. What I didn`t realize was that most of my resolutions back then were about boosting my ego or self-worth - for example, get this promotion, meet my husband, be happy. Now there is nothing wrong with all of these objectives, but what I was blind to see was that they were also, to some degree, outside of my control. To be promoted, this depended not only on my performance, but also on my manager`s support and organizational budget. To meet my husband obviously depended on another human being. And to be happy was simply too vague. What does it mean for me to be happy?
Again, in this grey, or actually colourful, area of life, there is no right answer - of course, you can and probably should manifest and envision your next promotion, relationship, and happiness. As we know, everything starts with an idea in our mind. And there are many ways and examples that prove this approach working, incl. "fake it until you make it", feel gratitude as if your dreams were already true, having a clear direction rather than wandering around (although I also see value in the latter, too).
One way to create your 2021 is to find your personal motto for 2021. Mine, for example, is to "follow my heart", simple as that (I was also surprised). And since Day 1, it has kept me centered, helped me know when to say "yes" or "no", and avoid unncessary analysis-paralysis. It is most effectful if your intention comes from your heart (or intuition / gut feeling / inner knowing / Inner Mentor / Higher Self / ...) rather than from your ego (often noticable through your mind). The difference is that your heart wants you to be happy, to serve the world (a sense of "we") - the mind, on the other hand, is mostly focused on its own grandeur, optimization, validation (a sense of "me"), to feel safe. Now your mind is very smart and it may have asked while you were reading these lines "What is she talking about? I want to achieve these objectives because this would allow me to do this and that." (If your mind replies that way, it shows defensiveness rather than inner peace in case I was wrong. (I may write a blog post about the ego, which is such a fascinating instance.)) Often a meditation can help us connect with our truest desires.
So what is your motto for 2021? That you can always come back to? What is the desire of your heart?
This week`s ...
Inspiration: Shakti Gawain - Living in the Light
Reflection: What do I want to let in 2020 and what do I want to create in 2021?
Intention: I live my 2021 motto in every moment of this year.