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When you feel lonely, know that you are not

Updated: Nov 28, 2022

"A season of loneliness and isolation is when the caterpillar gets its wings. Remember that next time you feel alone." - Mandy Hale

My dear friend,

If you have been feeling lonely while things have been opening up, getting back to normal and people are meeting up, that`s alright. If you feel like you don`t know what to do, when everyone else seems to have a plan, appointments, and fun outside, that`s alright. If your body is also giving you a sign to rest because you have been thinking and worrying so much, then listen to your body, that`s alright, too.

I know how it feels - despite having friends, meeting up, and enjoying a great time - it still can be that we have moments where we feel lonely. Be it because we suddenly don`t have any plans for the day or because even if we meet many people, it doesn`t always mean that we have been feeling connected. Whatever trigger or reason there may be, I would love to tell you that you are not alone.

I see you and I feel you with my heart. I am thinking of you and sending you much love. I embrace you and care for you.

Here are inspirations for you that may support you during phases of loneliness:

  • We all feel lonely from time to time, it is just that we may not see how others are dealing with this or they are distracting themselves to not feel this emotion. When we feel lonely, our Judge / Saboteur / Inner Child can be very strong, imagining everybody else hanging around and having a good time with each other, while we are all by ourselves, not being invited and included. If your mind is "there", try to come back "here" - where you are with your mind, body, and heart. Your mind is picturing scenarios, and whether they are true or not (often not), they are not serving us, so come back mindfully to where you are, with all emotions.

  • It is ok to have time for ourselves, to be with ourselves, even if the weather is nice. We don`t always have to be active and prove our worth by having appointments and activities with friends. You may also remember one of the moments when you were with other people, but you felt drained afterwards or even lonely while you were physically with others. If you are esp. a sensitive person, sensing other people`s energies, then it is also your right and responsibility to take care of your wellbeing and surround yourself with people that serve you.

  • Be kind to yourself, while these emotions are coming up. It is immensely inspiring and admiring that you are noticing and processing your emotions of loneliness, that can be overwhelming, unsettling, and challenging. So to counter-balance these effects, be very kind to yourself. Give yourself the permission to be and feel. Give yourself the permission to enjoy a good book, to rest, to chill - and don`t judge yourself only because there are no appointments for the day. Whether you have a date or not doesn`t define your worth at all. I see you and appreciate you - acknowledge this yourself, too, my friend.

One thing I can share with you is that I have always been surprised when people suddenly open up and share about their episodes of loneliness - people who I would have never thought they would feel like this. It always makes me realize that loneliness is a common thing, unfortunately, a global phenomenon that either people don`t like to talk about, e.g. potentially out of shame, which then may have severe implications on mental health. I also believe because we are so "busy" and immerse ourselves in activities, to sometimes not face our inner world, this can lead to increased loneliness, which can only be cured with true and deep connections - not the amount of meetings, but true and deep connection.

And connection always starts with us. As the quote says, use this time of loneliness to nourish and love yourself, so you will come out of this phase as a strong, beautiful, and curious butterfly. If you are connected with yourself rather than outside perceptions and expectations, you will make many nourishing and long-lasting connections that will ultimately serve your life.

Love, from me to you x

Linh Would you like to go deeper in a free Coaching session? Let me know by sending an email to – I very look forward to hearing from you! PS: Subscribe to my #mindfulmagic Newsletter and join our #magicmonday Community events :)

  • Inspiration: Global Digital Women

  • Reflection: How can I spend time with myself, just like a best friend?

  • Intention: I am not "there", I am "here".

Viet Linh Le is a female visionary, qualified coach with corporate experience, and multi-cultural founder of @vietnamwellbeing, with the mission to change our world by coaching the next-generation decision-makers. Find out more on

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